All couples meet difficulties over time, often going through cycles of feeling in love then in conflict, connected then disconnected. A crisis in your relationship is painful, but it can also pave the way to a longer-lasting connection with your partner.

     Some couples come to me to overcome a crisis in their relationship. Others want to stop the cycles of a crisis followed by a ‘new start’. Some already have a good relationship and want to fine-tune the way they interact and/or communicate. They all want to replace discomfort, difficulties and pain in their relationship with feeling connected to their partner and a fulfilling relationship. Using the IMAGO approach, I can help you do that.


What is IMAGO ?

     My approach to couple counselling is based on the IMAGO Relationship Therapy model, for which I have completed the official clinical training.

     Imago is a very practical method which has helped thousands of couples all over the world to establish more connected, and happier relationships. It focuses on communication, helping couples talk about the crisis/difficulties they face and what each partner wants from a relationship, in a way which restores and enhances the connection between them. Unlike more traditional approaches to couple counselling, Imago will first focus on helping you to communicate in a way that feels safe for both of you, before addressing the most painful aspects of your relationship. This means talking without hurting, blaming, or criticising each other. This will allow you to really hear each other.

     Because the Imago approach focuses on addressing the relationship dynamic between partners, it is effective for all kinds of difficulties, and for all couples, regardless of the age, sexual orientation, race, cultural background, and social status of the partners. Using this approach, I can help you get to the core of the issues you are facing, for example:

  • What was I/my partner really looking for when having an affair?
  • Why can't my partner understand that I need some time on my own/more time together?
  • Why do we keep getting into arguments?
  • We are so different. Can we be happy together?

What will our couple therapy be like?

.   Because the Imago approach focuses on communicating without raising each other’s defences, it often feels different from what people expect from couple therapy. Couples often have a positive feeling after an Imago appointment, even when they have discussed a difficult topic.

.   The first appointment is generally 60 minutes long. It will be a chance for us to decide whether we are a good match and want to work together. In this appointment you will start to reconnect and learn and use the basics of the Imago approach. Following appointments generally last 90 minutes each, and usually take place every other week. In these appointments I will help you use the Imago tools to address the difficult aspects of your relationship, deepen your connection with each other and work together towards a satisfying relationship.

.   Imago is not just about fixing the current crisis in your relationship. It's about setting your couple on a different course, in which you both feel happier, connected and safe.




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