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Counselling & CBT
What is counselling?
Counselling can refer to many different psychotherapeutic approaches delivered by different professionals, including counsellors, psychotherapists, psychologists, and psychiatrists (learn more about the differences here). Some practitioners will simply listen to you, others only apply counselling techniques. I have trained at the highest academic level in psychology and I take an active approach involving a real dialogue with you, using diagrams and handouts. My approach typically includes:
- An initial assessment to identify the unique aspects of your issue(s).
- Developing a meaningful and accurate psychological perspective of you as a person and of your difficulties.
- Identifying the psychological mechanisms which keep you stuck and help you change them.
- Working together to achieve your goals: I will help you become the person you want to be rather than simply ‘fixing’ your problem(s).
What is CBT?
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is perhaps the best-recognised counselling approach because of the wealth of scientific evidence which supports its efficacy. My approach is CBT-based: I choose the elements of CBT most helpful to you to address your issues, and use them in combination with elements from many other psychotherapeutic approaches, including:
- Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT)
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
- Cognitive Analytic Therapy (CAT)
- Mindfulness-based approaches
- Trauma-focused approaches
- Person-Centred Therapy
I can also use ‘pure’ CBT if you prefer or if this is required by your insurance.
Do I need counselling?
Everyone faces psychological difficulties at some point in their life, in the same way that we all have various physical problems. Seeking psychological help makes as much sense as seeing a medical doctor.
Engaging in counselling is a matter of personal choice. Counselling is an effective form of help and if you are experiencing any of the difficulties listed below (or on the ‘Home’ page), suffering in silence is not the only option. To access my help all you need to do is contact me using the details at the top of the page or leave a message on the Contact page.
Most people I see experience some level of anxiety on a daily basis, with a serious impact on their life: waves of overwhelming feelings, panic, shaking, sweating, butterflies in the stomach, difficulties concentrating and sleeping, constant worry, not enjoying anything, feeling isolated. Anxiety often has a negative impact on the whole family, because those who suffer can become short-tempered, snappy or angry. Persistent intense anxiety is often the root cause of depression.
But anxiety is not ‘incurable’ although it often seems like it. I can help you understand and change the psychological factors at play in your anxiety. Often the coping strategies that we use to deal with anxiety provide some immediate relief (even if limited) but unwittingly keep us locked in a vicious circle leading to more and more worrying. I will help you to identify personal coping strategies which do not lead you into vicious circles.
Many people suffer from depression at some point in their life. Yet, depression gets a bad press, as if it is something we can just ‘snap out’ of. But depression causes real suffering. It often involves having no energy, not feeling motivated to do anything (not even the things we know we have to do), feeling constantly tired, yet often not being able to sleep, not enjoying anything, losing appetite, and isolation. Depression is the reason why so many people miss out on living their life, and barely feel they exist. It also can lead to feeling suicidal.
I have worked with many people who have been depressed for a long time, sometimes more than 10 years. Almost all of them tried many things and thought that there was no solution which would work for them. Yet, I have found in their stories some belief or a way of looking at their life which made them feel hopeless. While all of them had suffered real tragedies or had truly hard times, it is their beliefs or their views which kept them locked in depression. Using a combination of practical strategies and gentle encouragement to rethink their life, I have been able to help them find hope and enjoy life again.
Client feedback /quote“You were never prescriptive. You were always intuitive. You always sowed the seeds to make me think. You made me look at “growing old gracefully” and being happy again.” (see testimonials page)
Many people I work with, from all walks of life, feel bad about themselves or/and believe that in some way they are not as deserving as others of love and care. Many are surprised to even discover these feelings about themselves after years of being in a successful career and/or relationship. But all share the sense that they have to behave in a specific way to be accepted or loved by others, for example needing to be successful, perfect, a high earner or to please others.
Low self-esteem is usually very deep rooted and long-standing. It leads some to self-harm or feeling suicidal. I can help you change the beliefs about yourself which are at the root of your low self-esteem, and rebuild your life putting at the centre what matters to you (your family, a career you have always wanted to have, a lifestyle you feel you don’t not deserve).
Losing someone we care about brings intense pain and sadness. It often leads to feelings isolated and can lead to depression. It can also create complex ambivalent feelings, like guilt or anger at the one we have lost. Grief is a complex process which a psychologist can help you navigate and even facilitate. It’s not just a matter of waiting for time to pass and for the pain to diminish, or about slowly forgetting the person you have lost. For most people, the pain of grief will never completely disappear, but I can help you rebuild your life around the memories of your loved one, the painful memories and the joyful ones.
Uncontrollable outbursts of anger can strain couples and family relationships to breaking point. While these outbursts are involuntary, anger is not simply the product of the situations you get into. I can help you uncover the thoughts and feelings that you experience in these situations. It is these thoughts and feelings which spark your anger and the outbursts.
Cancer, chronic illness and chronic pain:
A cancer diagnosis and the heavy treatments which may follow are most often experienced as a trauma by both the patient and their family. Upon diagnosis patients feel under intense threat and experience multiple loses: their health, their ability to work, to provide for their families and to care for themselves, their appearance, their confidence, and their very sense of who they are. Partners often instantly become a carer to the patient and bear responsibility for the whole family. Because the patient and their family are affected in different ways by these traumas, they require different forms of support. I have expert knowledge and experience in facilitating the process of psychological rebuilding patients go through after a trauma, and I am highly skilled at providing relief for their families and helping them identify effective coping strategies.
Many events or circumstances can profoundly challenge your sense of safety to the point that you may struggle to recognise yourself, others and the world around you. I have extensive experience of helping people rebuild a sense of safety and of themselves following various forms of trauma such as cancer, road traffic accidents and death of a loved one.